Believe in yourself!

by Lorraine Smith on October 14, 2017

When you tune into your heart’s desire and know yourself, anything is possible.

Sounds easy, right?

Then why is it that we feel like something is missing or we are not living up to our fullest potential?

Life is mirroring how we show up in ways that may be invisible to us.

Remember that – life is not happening to you, life is responding to you.

Gay Hendricks writes about this in his book, The Big Leap. He calls this your upper limit problem which is basically a lifetime of beliefs, fears, and habits that have held you back – often subconsciously and in subtle ways. These beliefs actually create a limited tolerance for feeling good. When we achieve some level of success, we may unconsciously self-sabotage ourselves because of this limited tolerance which brings us back down within the limits of our tolerance.

The core beliefs we have about ourselves are either supporting us or holding us back.

The good news is that you CAN reprogram yourself. We can learn to let go of the old fears and limiting beliefs and shift the focus of your creativity and drive to what you are uniquely gifted at. As Marie Forleo says, “The world needs that special gift that only you have”.  “There has never been and never will be another you. You have a purpose – a very special gift that only you can bring to the world”.

So how do we eliminate the barriers to success by overcoming false fears and beliefs?

It starts with taking a hard look at the limiting beliefs we are carrying around about ourselves.

Own Up.  Ask yourself -who or what are you blaming that may be keeping you from achieving your desires? Most often we blame our circumstances such as not having enough time, or the right job, boss, relationship, etc. Rather than looking outside of ourselves, we need to look inside.

Let go of your inner critic. Oh, how mean she can be! When your Inner Mean Girl runs the show, she will stress you out and bully you into making choices that may not best serve you. Next time you hear her in your head saying things like “you’re not good enough,” “you’re a loser,” or “everyone else has their act together,” flip it around and shine a little LOVE and compassion on yourself. Remind yourself “you are worthy of love and belonging (yes YOU),” “you rock,” and “you are amazing with all that you do.” Doing so will help you connect to your inner wisdom make choices that create more happiness, peace, love, and success.

Don’t be afraid of your darkness. So often we try to stuff the negative side of ourselves deep down. We were taught to be sugar and spice and everything nice, so when these so called “dark” emotions arise, we have no idea what to do with them. If we tuck them away rather than giving them the attention they desire, they get stuck. All emotions bring us telltale gifts, yet when left unacknowledged, our emotions end up running the show. That is until we acknowledge them and set them free. We often think it is best to stuff down the “dark” emotions but by doing so we also condition ourselves to not fully feel the “light” emotions too. Don’t be afraid of the dark. Learn to accept the good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s all part of being human.

Repeat this mantra every day. I expand in abundance, success, and love every day as I inspired those around me to do the same. ~Gay Hendricks. This mantra will help us consciously expand our upper limit and increase our tolerance for feeling good.

Create space. We must create time for deep inner reflection. Cultivating the courage to nurture the aspects of ourselves that still need healing.

Weed out. We must weed out beliefs, habits, and social imprints that are choking out the light in our spirits and plant seeds of love and compassion inside our fertile minds, hearts, and souls.

Forging an unshakable connection to the parts of us that are stuck will help us break through our inner glass ceiling and live the life we were born to live.


A Tribute to Louise Hay

by Lorraine Smith on September 18, 2017

When I was in my early 20’s, Louise Hay’s book You Can Heal Your Life thankfully feel into my lap. This book had such a profound effect on me that it literally changed my life. Louise opened my mind to the totally of possibilities which led me to look at life from a whole new perspective. She made me see that the patterns and beliefs I developed about myself we not all necessarily true and that I had the ability to change those limiting beliefs simply by changing my thoughts about myself. She shared how constant negative thinking can actual manifest into dis-ease in the body and offered new thought patterns and affirmations to help shift those limiting beliefs.

I also found Louise’s mirror work to be extremely healing. It took me years to get comfortable telling myself “I love you, I really, really love you” when looking at myself in the mirror. Now when I walk past a mirror I give myself a wink – okay, well most of the time. I make sure I tell myself “I love and approve of you” while brushing my teeth every morning. I have to say that the little girl in me appreciates being told how much she is loved.

Louise taught us that it is never too late to start living your dreams. She started Hay House when she was 60 and went on to do many other things sharing her message of LOVE!

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My original, very worn copy of You Can Heal Your Life resides on my night table or in my office as I refer to the List* chapter often. There are pages from numerous I Can Do It calendars taped all over my house or tucked into books. So many nights I drifted off to sleep repeating Louise’s affirmations over and over in my head.

Louise Hay was an incredible inspiration to me and so many others. I found it no coincidence that she passed two years to the day after her good friend, Wayne Dyer who was another one of my mentors.

In honor of Louise’s life, I am sharing some of my favorite affirmations.

In the infinity of life where I am, all is perfect whole and complete.

I am one with the power that created me.

Life loves me!

Love is the great miracle cure. Loving ourselves creates miracles in our lives.

Healing begins with love for myself and love for every part of my body.

I love and approve of myself.

I forgive myself for not being perfect I living the very best way I know how.

I deserve the best, and I accept the best, now. All my needs and desires are met before I even ask.

All I need to know at any given moment is revealed to me. My intuition is always on my side.

Remember you are the only person who thinks in your mind! You are the power and the authority in your world.

I claim my power and move beyond all limitations.

The point of power is always in the present moment.

Every thought you think is creating your future.

It’s only a thought, and a thought can be changed. I am not limited by any past thinking. I choose my thoughts with care. I constantly have new insights and new ways of looking at my world. I am willing to change and grow.

I cross all bridges with joy and ease. The “old” unfolds into wonderful new experiences. My life gets better all the time. I am safe, it’s only change.

Everything is working out for my highest good. Out of the situation only good can come.

You have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.

All is well in my world.

Deep at the center of my being there is an infinite well of gratitude. I now allow this gratitude to fill my heart, my body, my mind, my consciousness, my very being. This gratitude radiates out from me in all directions, touching everything in my world, and returns to me as more to be grateful for. The more gratitude I feel, the more I am aware that the supply is endless.

Thank you, Louise for sharing your love with the world! Thank you for guiding and leading so many of us on the path of self-love! I will be forever grateful!

And so it is.

*The List chapter was taken from Louise’s book Heal Your Body

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