When you tune into your heart’s desire and know yourself, anything is possible.
Sounds easy, right?
Then why is it that we feel like something is missing or we are not living up to our fullest potential?
Life is mirroring how we show up in ways that may be invisible to us.
Remember that – life is not happening to you, life is responding to you.
Gay Hendricks writes about this in his book, The Big Leap. He calls this your upper limit problem which is basically a lifetime of beliefs, fears, and habits that have held you back – often subconsciously and in subtle ways. These beliefs actually create a limited tolerance for feeling good. When we achieve some level of success, we may unconsciously self-sabotage ourselves because of this limited tolerance which brings us back down within the limits of our tolerance.
The core beliefs we have about ourselves are either supporting us or holding us back.
The good news is that you CAN reprogram yourself. We can learn to let go of the old fears and limiting beliefs and shift the focus of your creativity and drive to what you are uniquely gifted at. As Marie Forleo says, “The world needs that special gift that only you have”. “There has never been and never will be another you. You have a purpose – a very special gift that only you can bring to the world”.
So how do we eliminate the barriers to success by overcoming false fears and beliefs?
It starts with taking a hard look at the limiting beliefs we are carrying around about ourselves.
Own Up. Ask yourself -who or what are you blaming that may be keeping you from achieving your desires? Most often we blame our circumstances such as not having enough time, or the right job, boss, relationship, etc. Rather than looking outside of ourselves, we need to look inside.
Let go of your inner critic. Oh, how mean she can be! When your Inner Mean Girl runs the show, she will stress you out and bully you into making choices that may not best serve you. Next time you hear her in your head saying things like “you’re not good enough,” “you’re a loser,” or “everyone else has their act together,” flip it around and shine a little LOVE and compassion on yourself. Remind yourself “you are worthy of love and belonging (yes YOU),” “you rock,” and “you are amazing with all that you do.” Doing so will help you connect to your inner wisdom make choices that create more happiness, peace, love, and success.
Don’t be afraid of your darkness. So often we try to stuff the negative side of ourselves deep down. We were taught to be sugar and spice and everything nice, so when these so called “dark” emotions arise, we have no idea what to do with them. If we tuck them away rather than giving them the attention they desire, they get stuck. All emotions bring us telltale gifts, yet when left unacknowledged, our emotions end up running the show. That is until we acknowledge them and set them free. We often think it is best to stuff down the “dark” emotions but by doing so we also condition ourselves to not fully feel the “light” emotions too. Don’t be afraid of the dark. Learn to accept the good, the bad, and the ugly. It’s all part of being human.
Repeat this mantra every day. I expand in abundance, success, and love every day as I inspired those around me to do the same. ~Gay Hendricks. This mantra will help us consciously expand our upper limit and increase our tolerance for feeling good.
Create space. We must create time for deep inner reflection. Cultivating the courage to nurture the aspects of ourselves that still need healing.
Weed out. We must weed out beliefs, habits, and social imprints that are choking out the light in our spirits and plant seeds of love and compassion inside our fertile minds, hearts, and souls.
Forging an unshakable connection to the parts of us that are stuck will help us break through our inner glass ceiling and live the life we were born to live.
